Christian view dating divorcees
( In my situation, the marriage was very abusive, and resulted in immoral, deviant behaviors and an unrepentant spouse.It would have been dangerous to myself and children to remain in the circumstances.Thank you all for your thoughtful comments and discussion on this topic. I've had opportunities to date, and have said no because I, too believe that dating through divorce is a Biblically a 'no'.David Carter, thank you for taking the time to thoroughly respond to the questions. There could be several rabbit trails within my post, such as the reasons one is divorcing as- is that, in and of itself, Biblical.
This is even an order of magnitude greater in my opinion for divorcees my age. It can feel like time-traveling back to high school (or junior high for some of you). Remind yourself that you want to be faithful to God’s design for sexual intimacy, that you want to show respect and care for the woman you are dating, and that waiting has true benefits.
Last Monday, I gave a general perspective of the situation, and you can read that post HERE. As Pastor James Mac Donald has often said, “When God says makes some things more bearable — like it’s hard for me to be upset about some of the little annoyances from my husband when he just brought me to ecstasy hours earlier. But when you’re dating someone, you need those glasses transparent so you can get to know this person and how you are together.
Today, I want to get into specifics on staying sexually pure. After being married and having a sex life, it can feel excruciatingly slow to back everything up to holding hands, then a soft kiss, then a lingering kiss, and then a more passionate kiss . If you add sex into the mix, you’ll feel prematurely attached and less able to see them clearly. I realize it may feel like you don’t have that kind of time, but slow isn’t years. We cannot do this on our own, so seek out all the Christian resources you need to stay sexually pure.
One example is Christians living together prior to marriage; it seems that has become much more common these days.
I think David Carter did an excellent job in describing the church's responsiblity to confront these types of issues.